What is Love?

It’s a question that has many answers, we can say that love is the feeling we feel for those people who are close to us. We can say that love comes in many different forms, romantic, platonic, friendship….Really though, there only is one way to love and that’s unconditionally. Soul connection situations can be the most difficult situations in which we learn to love unconditionally. Throughout the soul connection situation one will try to define things in terms of being “lovers” or “friends” and yes this is how earthly relationships usually work….we see things in terms of black and white. However, with soul connections, trying to define things in terms of black and white doesn’t work because the connection goes beyond that, it’s at the soul level where nothing is black and white. The experience is about our souls helping each other wake up and see what’s really there, to shed ourselves from the fears and insecurities that have plagued us and prevented us from seeing and living from our own soul.

I recently got an image from my guides about a decision I’m going to have to make in the future regarding my soul connection. They showed me the two possibilities, in both there is a rose in a glass case…in one situation the case is being slowly lifted from the rose and the rose lives and thrives. In the other the glass is smashed, the rose wilts, turns black and then turns to ashes. I was initially confused about this image and I had asked a friend about it, she told me that one of the options would remove my connection partner from the picture because I would be so hurt. My ego came into the picture, analyzed everything to death but eventually I realized I was going so crazy because what was on my mind front and centre was RELATIONSHIP.

It later came to me that going straight for the relationship would result in the glass shattering, the rose dying and turning to ash because it would be jumping into something my connection partner isn’t ready for and purely out of my wanting. Going for that option would show I’ve forgotten everything I’ve learned, and forgotten the BIG point that ultimately this isn’t about relationship. That would have been me repeating the same cycle we went through before, I’m pretty sure the universe would have hit me with a 2 x 4 for that one.

Now, the other option, the glass being lifted slowly and gradually from the rose…..in this option it’s not about a relationship, it’s about slow and steady spiritual growth. It’s about loving that person unconditionally and helping them grow. It’s about passing the final test, being tested on everything that was learned throughout this connection.

I’m very thankful to my friend for giving me that bit of insight, but leaving the rest to me to figure out on my own. Had I not known, I may have made a huge mistake and have to learn my lessons in a not so pleasant way.

That is unconditional love, it’s having respect and understanding for where the other person is on their path. being there to help them grow, but within boundaries so we don’t disempower ourselves while doing so. Unconditional love is understanding that a partners negative actions towards us, such as running, being commited to someone they don’t love or throwing blame at us are not to be taken personally.

What to do with All of This Energy?

Connections have the power to fill us with tremendous amounts of energy. It flows through us electrically, sometimes to the point we feel that we’re going to explode…So, what do we do with it? For most of us, we feel like taking this energy and putting it back into our connection…the other person is our outlet for the energy…but what about cases in which your connection partner has their own stuff to deal with, or simply wants to be alone for a while. What do you do with the energy then? A lot of us just continue throwing the energy at our connection partner, creating more imbalance, I’ve  heard it referred to as the push/pull effect. Others will simply try to ground out all of the excess energy, and turn the lights down a bit….I’ve been told by many people “ground your energy, it’s so important!” when I speak of having energy overloads….I can see that grounding is important, but really? Grounding out ALL of the excess energy?? We must have been given this wonderful energy for a purpose, and if we’re turning our lights down are we really letting who we are shine through?

I’m writing about this because the tendency to want to channel my energy into a soul connection partner arose over the past few days, and he has been avoiding me. Him avoiding me triggered some negative thoughts in my mind like “Am I not interesting enough, or intelligent enough for him to want to talk to?”. Depending on what we channel the energy into, the energy can be either a constructive or destructive force. Channeling my energy into an aloof soul connection partner had me feeling self defeated for a bit. However, channeling my energy into taking photographs leaves me feeling alive and open. What you do with your energy is your choice, the energy may have come to be present in you due to connection, but that doesn’t mean it has to be projected back at the partner. Remeber the laws of physics kids, energy can never be created or destroyed but it is transmutable

When the Spiritual Becomes Ego Based

Over the past few years I have noticed there has been a massive explosion in the amount of spiritual material that’s available online. In some ways it’s a great thing, but in other ways it can be a very dangerous thing causing the reader to cling to the very thing they are trying to disempower, the ego.

Often when one is down they will turn to spiritual material to help guide them through what they are being faced with. To an extent this can be healthy, and allows one to relate to the experiences of others, and it offers a sense of hope, a feeling that changes can be made. However, one can be lead off path if they become too dependent on reading up on spiritual subjects on a regular basis. Whatever phase of the journey we are on; ego death is part of the game. When one becomes overly absorbed in reading up on spiritual matters it counteracts the process of ego death, the spiritual then becomes a mental construct. I have seen many identify themselves as such things as “indigo” “starseed” “rainbow” etc. as a form of validation and relating to the spiritual material becomes an obsession for seeking validation outside of ones self, seeking a sense of belonging. The equivalent of what’s going through one’s head in relation to all the stuff that’s written about the aforementioned groups is “I identify with those qualities, that’s who I am, that’s who I want to be” and one doesn’t realize this because everything is in a spiritual context speaking of love and light, that makes it so much harder to see they have gotten stuck in something, although boasting of love and light, it’s just as damaging as any other addiction. There is no such thing as a healthy addiction; all things must be in balance to be healthy and stable.

In real spirituality there is no need to identify with labels, no need to fit into some sort of defined box, no dependence. When one falls into this trap, they only think spiritual rather than living and feeling it. One reads the traits and qualities that are listed and all the wonderful things spirituality has to offer, and they aspire to be all the things they just read about, rather than connecting with their true self. Truth is, every soul in the universe is unique, we all have different strengths and weaknesses, different likes and dislikes, no two souls are the same, all of the wonder and potential that exists within the souls of the universe cannot be put into words in any article or book, so one should not be aspiring to be the things they read of. Rather, one should be expressing themself by connecting with whatever it is that moves them, easier said than done I know, but the potential is there for all of us, and if one shifts the focus away from the reading, and all the mind stuff and just tunes in, they will find it.

Don’t get me wrong, this isn’t an attack on the spiritual community, or anything against the spiritual material in books or websites. I do feel there is a certain degree of value to it and that it can spark interest people inspiring them go out and discover the world of energy, helping them find balance. On the flipside though, there is that risk of becoming trapped in the feel good fantasy aspect of it. This article is intended to help people see that potential risk, and steer clear of it; the power is with you not in the spiritual jargon, not in the websites, not in the books. The power always has been and always will be with you, the spiritual material has been designed to help one recognize that power, not to bring about more addictions in the world. So go tap into that power!